The Road Less Traveled..Belongs to Someone Else…

It’s been a while since I’ve blogged but I am back! I have been on an amazing journey that has not been my own… let me explain..

There are times in life where someone else allows us to be a part of their journey…that journey may have hills and bumps, rain and thunderstorms, and sometimes the path will be smooth..the greatness is that someone wanted you with them to experience the journey with them…

A friend of mine just completed his first book!! It took him 7 years to complete the story of the beginnings of his life and, although the journey was filled with memories of sadder times, the result of his perseverance shows! I wanna thank him for allowing me to be a part of that journey with him.. on his journey, I learned about his life and how he has grown into the man that he is today.. statistically speaking, the life he experienced will not often lead to being a published author but because of the choices that he made throughout his life, he has risen above the odds! And because of his journey, I know that I, too, can reach any goal that I set for myself… the journey is not over!

Being a part of someone’s journey can help you to remember yours…

Not going on the journey is simply NOT AN OPTION…

*i will post a link when the book is through the final edit.. it’s a must read!!!*

Thank you, Rico

Clear the Mechanism

A term often used in baseball, I first heard this in the movie, “For the Love of the Game” starring Kevin Costner and Kelly Preston..In the movie, he’s a major league pitcher, pitching in his last career game..as he is setting up to pitch, he tells himself to “clear the mechanism” and all the noise around him fades away and the only thing he focuses on is the pitch.

We spend so much time focusing on everything around us that we don’t focus on what’s in front of us. We spend so much time worried about what he said or she said that we don’t pay attention to what we say.. we spend so much time worrying about how this person got what they have and not enough time focusing on how to get what we want..we spend so much time worrying what others are doing, that we don’t even know what we are doing..

I was researching something this morning and found myself in that exact spot.. worrying about someone else’s success that I failed to look at my own successes.. that woke me up!

Everybody has a journey and everybody’s journey is not the same. Our paths may be different with different struggles and bumps, but our destinations all lead to success! You know how people slow down when they see an accident?? They’re just trying to see what’s going on and it slows down all of traffic.. the same thing happens when you focus on everybody else’s success.. it just slows you down from achieving yours!

Clear your mechanism and stay focused on the prize.. your journey and your success!!

Slowing down to see the accident is simply NOT AN OPTION…

Introducing…

Bringing awareness to the cause..

Just because something holds you down, doesn’t mean you have to stay there..

Just because somebody told you that you were inadequate, doesn’t mean they are right…

Just because it’s hard to quit, doesn’t mean you can’t…

Just because somebody physically or mentally broke you, doesn’t mean you can’t rebuild…

Just because somebody said you can’t…only means that you have to…

You may need support or someone you love… let’s give it to them!! Let’s show them that giving up is simply NOT AN OPTION!!

The Grass is Greener….

Imagine that you live in a jail cell..as if you would be there for the rest of your life..someone tells you when you get up..when to shower…when you can go outside..when to eat.. and when to go to sleep. After doing this for so long, you get comfortable in your everyday life.. you don’t need for anything or want for anything.. except your freedom…

Most of live inside of cells.. they are our minds.. our comfort zones. But what really happens inside of your zone?? Nothing!!! Just everyday, routines!! But we are afraid to step outside because we are afraid of the unknown. What if you decide to take a leap of faith and find that new job you’ve wanted? What if you take that leap and start that business that everyone told you would fail? Fear tells you that if you take that leap, you’ll land on your face..Faith tells you that if you take that leap, God will keep you from falling..

The cell in the picture above is a representation of your mind.. your comfort zone.. if you look closely, you’ll see a key in the door that you can certainly turn to unlock the door.. but if you look a little closer, you’ll see that the door is already open and all you have to do is walk through..

Being in your comfort zone is one thing, staying there is simply NOT AN OPTION!!

Party at Misery’s.. RSVP

Have you ever heard the expression, ‘keeping up with the Joneses?’ This means that if the Jones’s across the street bought a new car, then you have to get a new car..or if the Jones’s got a new tv, you have to get a new tv.. problem is that we do this regardless of how much debt we accumulate aside from monetary..

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone you haven’t seen in a while and you guys are just catching up.. one speaks of a recent illness and how bad the illness was.. the other speaks about their recent illness that was so much worse.. one speaks of how they are in such a bad relationship.. the other speaks on how much worse their relationship is.. one speaks of so much debt.. the other speaks of more debt..one speaks of a disrespect child.. the other speaks of a disrespectful and out of control child who will end up in jail..

Why is everybody trying to outdo each other in the misery department? Why are we trying to see who has the most pain? Why are we trying to see who is going through more trials? Why are we wearing our struggles like a badge of honor…

Stop comparing war wounds and battle scars! Start talking about the many blessings you have and the struggles that you have overcome.. start sharing your stories of walking in your purpose and building your personal legends… start talking about triumphs instead of tragedies..

Your victory is always bigger than their struggles… let them use your victories as a steppingstone… struggles will hold you down.. but you can chose not to stay there..

Misery loves company… but just because you’re invited, doesn’t mean you have to attend..

Battle scars vs. War wounds is simply NOT AN OPTION!!!

Cover to Cover

Imagine sitting on the couch, in your favorite robe or pajamas, with a cup of warm tea, and you open up a book that you’ve been dying to read…

Now imagine if that book was a book of your life.. what would it say? How would you depict yourself? Would it tell of horrible tragedies and the lowest points in your life??

Now imagine reading up to the chapter that represents your age right now..and then the pages that follow are all blank..

You are the author of your book.. the pages are blank because you haven’t written them.. your future is like blank pages just waiting to be filled with life..what will you write??

The pages before are already written and there’s nothing you can do to change them.. you can’t rewrite the past..no need to keep rereading what has already taken place.. it’s time to move forward and write a great story.. write a story about triumph and victories.. write a story about winning and succeeding.. write a story about overcoming adversity and living life to the fullest..the blank pages are your future… what will you write??

Leaving the pages blank means an incomplete life and that is simply NOT AN OPTION!!!

Road Trip

As you drive towards your destination, you are always looking in your rearview mirror.. the rearview mirror is to see what’s behind you..whether it’s something that you’ve passed or whether it’s another vehicle that’s behind you..

If it’s something that you’ve passed, the more you drive forward, the smaller it gets.. eventually it’ll disappear, never to be seen again because you’ve passed it.. you’ve moved on..

If it’s another vehicle behind you, it’s exactly where it’s supposed to be.. behind you.. as long as you keep driving forward, it will remain behind you.. eventually, it too, will become a thing of the past..

There are times that, as you’re driving forward, something may appear that reminds you of a thing you’ve already seen in your rearview mirror.. something you’ve already passed.. once you realized that it’s only a memory, it, too, will be in the rearview mirror and will fade..

As you drive forward in life, understand that your rearview mirror only holds things that you’ve passed as you’ve grown.. there may be triggers but they are only memories that you can drive away from..your rearview mirror is small for a reason.. the things of the past are small and you’ve driven past them..

Keep your eyes focused through the windshield.. it’s bigger so you can see more of where you’re going and less of where you’ve been..

Today is a new day.. you can make changes to live a better and more positive life..

Understand that driving in reverse is simply NOT AN OPTION!

Fan Club

Haters.. those that talk negatively about someone else’s success…

Get a promotion.. here come the haters

Get a raise.. here come the haters

Start a business…here come the haters

Be happy…here come the haters

You can’t stop haters from coming. Maybe they are jealous of your success, maybe they are unhappy within themselves, maybe they are just mad at the world..they don’t realize that it’s that negative energy that keeps them from succeeding and being truly happy in life.. Let them hate, it’s their job..

Don’t let haters steal your joy. When they try, smile.. when they keep trying to bring you down, smile bigger..when they keep coming, smile brighter..and keep climbing!

Use haters as a stepping stone to rise to the top! The best way to bring down a hater is to succeed!!

Every time a hater looks up, let them see you winning! After all, haters are your biggest fans!

Allowing haters into your success is simply NOT AN OPTION!

March Madness

Spring cleaning.. this is the time of year that we wait on.. the weather gets nice.. our sprits feel new.. and we clean our homes, from top to bottom, of everything we no longer need..

Think of your body as your home.. your body being your mind, your heart, your physical body, and your soul.. let’s clean our home..

Clean your mind of negative thoughts and pessimistic thinking.. clear your mind of worries and fears..

Clean your heart of hatred towards yourself and others..clean your heart of feelings of depression and sadness.. clean your heart of anything that will take your spirit out of alignment with your purpose..

Clean your body of substances that you use to drown your demons.. alcohol.. drugs..anger..self harm..

Clean your soul of anything that holds you from your purpose..

Cleaning our homes will require us to remove things that we may want to keep but are ultimately preventing us from making room for all the blessings that will come.. this means we may have to remove that blanket of low self esteem that we use to keep us from growing.. we may have to remove the substances that we use to try and drown our demons.. we even have to remove people that try to keep us entrapped in their drama and chaos because they see no way out and misery certainly loves company.. sometimes, you have to empty your home of everything and start over..

As we begin this new season of hope, cleaning our homes may not be easy but it is possible..as you’re removing the negative, only let in the positive as this is not a revolving door..

Spring cleaning is a traditional but you don’t have to wait until spring to clean your soul..

Keeping yourself surrounded by clutter is detrimental to growth and prosperity and that simply is..NOT AN OPTION!!

Face Off

There was movie in 1997 called, “Face Off”, and it starred John Travolta and Nicholas Cage. Travolta was an FBI agent and Cage was a terrorist.. Cage is in a plane crash and severely injured.. Doctors are able to surgically remove the faces of both men so that Travolta can use Cage’s face as his own to elicit information concerning a bomb from Cage’s brother.. hence the title, “Face Off.”

Isn’t this what we do in our lives, everyday? Wear the face of who we want people to see? We wear a face of smiles and laughter, when we are really crying underneath.. we wear a face of coldness when we try to hide our feelings.. we even wear faces of nonchalance because we don’t wanna show that we care.. the question is.. why? Why do we wear different faces? Are we hiding from the world? Or are we hiding from ourselves?

When did it become unacceptable to show that you hurt? Maybe showing the hurt can help you heal..

When did it become unacceptable to show emotion? Maybe showing emotion can help you feel…

I hid behind so many faces that I didn’t recognize my own when I looked in the mirror.. as I’ve found myself, I’ve found my own face and have learned to appreciate its beauty as it is.. opening myself to feel again has allowed me to blossom and grow.. not only can I see the beauty of the world, I can feel it…

Travolta can change his face but he was still a cop underneath…

You can change your face all you want but you are still who you are underneath the facade..

Be yourself… being someone else is simply NOT AN OPTION!!